Anger is a powerful emotion and a common reaction in divorce. In fact, most people will inevitably deal with anger at some point in the divorce process. We will discuss tips to help manage anger during divorce, so anger does not take over the process.
Anger is not a bad emotion. In fact, it can be a warning sign to let us know that something is not ok, and there is a perceived injustice. It’s important to realize that anger is a normal emotion, and can actually help move you toward a positive change. Getting angry may cause you to set certain boundaries or give you increased energy. Do you know someone who cleans when they are angry, or exercises? They are releasing the increased energy in a positive way.
Reactions such as yelling, screaming and throwing things can be toxic and cause a negative effect on you; emotionally, physically and financially. Fighting with the co-partner out of emotions can extend the divorce process which can increase the cost, and it can also damage future co-parenting communication. Consequently toxic reactions to anger can affect your health, your kids, and your decision making.
So how to you prevent toxic reactions? Be informed and have a plan for when you are starting to feel the simmer of emotions of anger.
All of the subtle warning signs can build up and affect you, and your behavior negatively.
The divorce process is an overwhelming time. It is important to be clear in your thinking because you have critical decisions to make about your home, financial assets, children, and future. For this reason, it may help to think of divorce as a business and try to keep emotions out of the communication.
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