Article by: Sean Gartland found on Certified Divorce Coach®’s Divorce Support Help website.
It was a cool, crisp fall day in early November when she told me. Finishing a walk in the woods where we admired the changing colors of the leaves in our neighborhood and talked about our marital struggles, she turned to me and say the four words which would change our family forever: I want a divorce.
I later learned that she had been planning this announcement for years, and now that the time had come had decided that it would be better to get it out in the open so that in her words “We could all have one more nice holiday season together before things come to an end without it looming over our heads.”
Have you found yourself approaching the season in the midst of separation or divorce? Perhaps this year will be your first year as a newly divorced person and you are anticipating how to “share” your children with your ex-spouse during the holidays. Regardless of your situation, surviving the holidays with a sense of dignity and peace, being your best self for both yourself and your family, can be challenging!
However, inviting a Certified Divorce Coach to go through it with you can help to ensure that you walk through the season successfully!
Here are some things to consider as you engage with your Certified Divorce Coach around this topic:
The list can go on for you depending upon your own unique set of circumstances. In my case my birthday also falls four days after Christmas, so there was an additional event to plan for and consider. After being unexpectedly given divorce papers I wasn’t exactly feeling much like celebrating my birthday (or anything else!) but I was determined to white-knuckle it, gritting my teeth and biting my tongue through my tears, all the way through until after New Year’s Eve.
While it would have been a difficult time regardless of what I did, I am convinced that if I had been able to enlist the help of a Certified Divorce Coach to help me navigate the situations, emotions, and overwhelm, I would have had a much more positive and peaceful “nice holiday season together”.